Becoming an Aggresive Driver, ways to cope!

This post will be kind of short and sweet for those quick browsers. Please feel free to leave feed back and I hope this information helps the slightest bit. 

Are you becoming an aggresaive driver? I know that I can definitely say I'm guilty as one. We’re always in a rush- to work, to get home, to get our errands done, driving kids, etc.  We get aggravated when people don’t do the speed limit or are talking on their phones & not paying attention.  Driving a car is stressful-period!  Blood pressure rises & we tense our body.  The number one thing that needs to be said is , Relax while driving (of course, pay attention to the road-haha) and give yourself a chance to breathe & to reflect.  Here are some tips/ways to help calm down and cope with aggresive driving (Road Rage):
 1. Sometimes, I shut off the radio & enjoy the“quietness”. 
 2. Put soothing music on and just listen carefully to the lyrics or focus on the background 
 3. Don't focus on what others around you are doing or where they are going ( Where are you going?)
 4. I always carry a bottle of water with me, take small sips when you feel your getting ready to yell
 5. Think about where your heading and the steps you're gonna take once there.


If anyone can think of some tips/ advice to give I'd love to hear some and add to my list ;)

Don't Sweat the Small Stuff !

I like to always say for myself advice is "It's All Good, No worries"! Take what you can from this post, feel free to leave feedback and remember don't take offense to any of my words, but hopefully use them in your own way to make maybe life easier. 

“See the Glass as Already Broken (and Everything Else Too): This is from a Buddhist teaching which says“that all of life is in a constant state of change”.  Everything has a beginning & end.  There is a peace to be found in this teaching.  When you expect something to change, you’re not surprised or disappointed when it does.  Instead of becoming “immobilized” when something is destroyed, you feel grateful for the time you have had.  This philosophy leads us tomaking peace with the “way things are”. 

 

I try to think of all possible outcomes (good or bad) so I’m prepared mentally & physically when making major decisions.  But here’s the key- “don’t over-think it” !!!!   We will always be on Life’s rollercoaster, with it’s ups and downs.  The important thing is when you are on the rise going up that long climb on the coaster & ready to hit the top,  be conscious to enjoy that moment- schedule fun things to do, meet friends/family- because when you do go down it could be a fast, scrray ride. 

Be Grateful For What You Have VS. What You Want!

Someone close to my heart gave me this advice and I thought I should pass this along the way for others to read and share, may help make a difference in someone's life. 

Do you ever feel that your life is falling apart and that no matter what good comes into your life it won't make a difference? Well stop always feeling and saying I want this I want that, and think truly hard about your life.  " Think of What you Have Instead of What you Want”-  A lot of us tend to focus on what we“want” instead of what we “have”.  We just keep expanding our list of desires, which guarantees we will remain dissatisfied.   Take a breath & remember all you have to be grateful for.  Rather than wishing your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend was different, try thinking about their wonderful qualities.  Instead of complaining about your salary, be grateful you have a job.  If you do, your life will start appearing much better than before.  For the 1st time in your life, you’ll know what it means to feel satisfied & heading toward inner-peace.

 

Think about creating,  “Good Things in My Life List”- when You're feeling sad about things in your life. Start off with the phrase "Here’s what I’m grateful for":  Example, I have a wonderful husband who isn’t unfaithful and would give me the world , doesn’t spend money frivolously, is a hard worker & handy in the house and mechanically(great for our cars and boat) & doesn’t smoke or do drugs; We own a home & a four cars (one being our beater truck, one is my husbands' baby, and then our two dailys); With that being said I don’t have to take public transportation or do my laundry at a Laundromat; I have great friends/family who are very supportive, I’ve been fortunate to always find a job, I have wonderful memories with my family.

Then write a list of “ Things I’m Resentful For”-  Compare them to the “Good Things” & what I’ve found is that “you can change the things that are bothering you or need improvement” – it takes time & thought but many things you don’t like in life can be improved. 

Enjoy this message and I hope someone can walk away with some good advice and judgment from this.